Any Vancouver Washington attorney will tell you that it’s okay to get angry during your divorce.
While anger can be ugly, it does remind you what’s important, and it can help you do things you may have thought you couldn’t do.
What you want to avoid is bitterness. As Rosalind Sedacca and Amy Sherman write in their Child-Centered Divorce Blog, “Bitterness is a state of mind we carry with us at all times.”
Anger is fleeting, bitterness is not.
We’re mentioning anger and how it leads into bitterness because chances are really good that your ex-spouse or future ex-spouse, is an expert at making you angry. If you’re co-parenting with them, there’s a high probability that they will make you mad in the near future.
If you’re not prepared, the anger they cause can turn into bitterness. You don’t want that to happen. Your family doesn’t want that to happen.
So how do you allow yourself to get angry but not allow that anger to fester into bitterness?
When you start to feel bitter ask yourself these questions:
- Is my bitterness really worth my energy?
- When I’m feeling bitter can I focus on anything else?
- Am I prepared to choose my bitterness over my family?
- Is my bitterness really making my life better?
- Do I really want to be a bitter person?
If you’re still worrying about succumbing to bitterness, you may want to consider seeking professional help.
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