While getting a divorce in Vancouver WA, have you wanted to say something bad about your ex-spouse?
We thought so. Wanting to say bad things about your ex is natural.
Here’s the really important question, have you ever criticized your former spouse with your children around?
Hopefully, your answer to this question is “no.”
That’s because one of the worst things you can do before, during, and after your divorce is talk bad about your ex when your children are around to hear it.
Here’s why…
Your children identify with both parents. If you criticize your counterpart, your children may think you are also criticizing them.
Nasty comments about your ex can create anxiety, insecurity, and fear in your children. It can also make them trust you less.
Even if your condemnation is justified in your opinion, verbalizing it to your offspring may create unhappiness. No one, including your children, wants to hear negative comments about one of their parents.
This may be the hardest thing you’ve ever had to do, but it will pay off big in the long run. Holding your tongue today will eventually earn your child’s respect. You may have to wait until they’re adults but it will likely happen.
Even if your co-parent is badmouthing you, don’t stoop to their level. Consider taking the high road for the benefit of your children and your family’s long term happiness.
If you’re going through, or about to go through a divorce in Vancouver Washington, contact Lambert Law Office right here.