In most cases, children feel innately connected to their parents. They love them unconditionally, even when that love is not returned. The emotional connection between children and their parents can cause them to take offense and be hurt when one parents speaks negatively about the other. Since they view their parents as part of their “self,” they will likely consider that the put-down is also meant for them.
When both parents speak ill of each other in the presence of their children, it can lead to low self esteem and feelings of unworthinesss in their children. The children may begin to wonder if something is wrong with them.
The lesson to be learned here is quite simple, the destructive comments that you make about your ex in front of your children, can inflict a variety of wounds on your innocent children. To avoid hurting them, consider doing your best to avoid making any negative comments.
Here are a few ways that negative comments can impact your child’s development. They can:
- Create anxiety
- Lead to insecurity
- Raise their level of fear
- Cause a lack of trust for one or both parents depending on who is making the negative comments
- Add a level of unhappiness into their lives as they hear negative comments about the people they’ve held as their main role models most of their lives
Even though it is extremely challenging, minding your tongue around your children has its benefits. Instead of letting your anger and bitterness show, your child can witness compassion and respect. They will know that their parents still care about each other, your children will grow up in a safer and more loving environment.
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