Even if your divorce is contentious, this does not mean that you need to continue to have conflict. If conflict continues to happen just make certain that you keep your children out of it.
Stress can cause parents to vent to their children. This can cause extreme anxiety. Children need a home environment that is emotionally stable and a place they can recoup. They don’t need you to compromise their security by arguing or airing problems between the two of you.
Even if you have been arguing in front of them, it’s never too late to stop.
Make his life as secure as possible.
Here are a few ways to leave your children out of any conflict.
- This is a new relationship with your ex. Now you are co-parenting. Learn to resolve your anger. Take a breath and find an inner peace.
- Don’t chose to discuss volatile issues when the children are around. Go where they aren’t listening. This doesn’t mean hiding in the backyard where they can see you and read your body language.
- Don’t burden your children with adult problems such as money or custody. They don’t need to feel guilty about swim team fees or science project expenses. They don’t need to blame themselves for problems.
- If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all. Don’t point out your ex’s flaws. They don’t need someone attacking their parents.
- Make certain that your children know that the divorce is not their fault. Many children need to be reassured over and over.
If your marriage is going to end, you need to be a responsible parent. Call Lambert Law for help for every step of the way. 360-737-1473.
You need someone who can take enough off of the situation that you can parent in the best manner possible.