Divorce in Vancouver WA can create conflicts between parents. Too often parents tend to vent or share this anger about the other parent with one or more of their children.
Unfortunately, when children are caught in the middle of parental conflict, they can become confused and learn to cope with their confusion by acting out- including manipulating or rejecting their parents.
When dealing with parental conflict and any of your kids’ negative behaviors that might result, follow these tips:
Don’t ever bad-mouth your ex in front of the kids.- Don’t take your frustrations out on them by losing your tempter, acting aggressively, shaming or criticizing them.
- Stay empowered by not allowing the kids and your ex to determine the parameters of your contact with them. Avoid waiting until the kids “feel” like seeing you. Stick to the schedule agreed to in your divorce terms.
- Create enjoyable experiences that speak for themselves instead of trying to talk to your kids about negative feelings they might be feeling towards you.
- Avoid impressing or “buying” the kids’ affection with over-the-top gifts and promises.
- Never dismiss your children’s feelings.
- Temping as it may be, refrain from accusing the children of being brain-washed by their other parent or just repeating what they were told.
- Be the parental role model your children need and deserve.
For a progressive and child-centered divorce, contact Crystal Lambert Schneider, Vancouver WA Divorce attorney, here.