The story of King Solomon is widely known. In this story, two women claim to be the mother of a child. To determine which mother is lying, King Solomon says he will cut the baby in half so they can share the child. One of the women agrees, but the other forfeits the baby to save his life. Only a real mother would sacrifice everything to save their child’s life, so she is reunited with her baby. This story has been used to help divorcing parents understand what it really means to be “child focused” instead of focusing on the emotional pain of the divorce and revenge. However, King Solomon’s wisdom doesn’t end here.
King Solomon has a collection of tales about wisdom and the dangers of our tongue. It might be difficult to hold back with those you love, and even more so difficult when you are emotionally charged.
There are so many ways that communication can be made worse when emotions are involved. Some of these ways are; using critical comments, giving half-truths, complaining, manipulating, exaggerating, being judgmental, or through selfishness.
These ten tips are derived from the wisdom of King Solomon from the Book Proverbs.
- Practice Impulse Control
- Do No Harm-Try Kindness
- Don’t Talk Badly About Your Co-parent
- Try Listening Rather then Speaking
- Avoid an Argument
- Let the Moment Pass
- Don’t Look for Ways to Boast
- Avoid Sounding Like A Know-it-All
- Find the Right Time to Speak
- Guard Your Mouth
Sometimes, words and actions can make things worse. Learning to listen and communicate effectively may make a huge difference in dealing with your ex. To read more about how to communicate effectively, click here.
For help focusing your efforts in the right place during a divorce, click here to contact your Vancouver WA Divorce Attorney who cares. Lambert Law Office can be your advocate during this emotional time.