Divorces can deeply affect all members of the family, even those living outside of Vancouver WA. In particular, grandma and grandpa.
For grandparents, circumstances beyond their control—their adult child’s divorce—has limited, or even ended, physical visits with their beloved grandsons and granddaughters.
So what is a grandparent to do?
The key for grandparents, especially for those who don’t live close to their grandchildren, is communication. Grandparents must communicate with the “ex” as well as their grandkids.
The “ex”
When it comes to the “ex,” it may help communication if grandparents remain civil, polite, and respectful. As hard as it may be, they can’t take sides or place any blame.
Grandparents should try contacting the “ex” and politely ask permission to continue their relationship with their grandchild. They are doing so to give the child consistency with the family—that’s very important after a divorce.
Grandkids
If the “ex” gives permission, it may help to find ways to effectively communicate with their grandkids. While phone calls are certainly a terrific way to communicate with their children’s children, closer relationships may be formed if grandparents embrace technology.
In addition to frequently phone calls, grandparents should consider texting, email, and video conferencing.
Whatever method grandparents choose, they need to try to be consistent, flexible, and provide unconditional love.
Also, grandparents might want to avoid having any preconceived notions on how their grandkids should respond. They just need to know that one day their grandkids will really appreciate their efforts.
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This article is based on information from the Child-Centered Divorce blog.
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