Attempting to be an effective parent following divorce is always challenging. There are many changes that come with divorce, and visitation, or going from one house to the other, may be one of them. In some cases children will resist the need to go between homes and might even mistreat the other parent.
If you’re having a difficult time dealing with the resistance of your child following your divorce, here are a few questions that you may want to ask yourself:
- Is it possible that your child is feeling guilty or disloyal when they leave your presence?
- Have they witnessed some of the information or slurs that you or those around you make about the other parent?
- Are your children being raised in an environment that is hostile towards the other parent?
- Are the parenting styles between you and your ex vastly different from each other?
- Is it possible that they are holding the other parent responsible for the divorce or its outcome?
If your answer is yes to any of these questions, it could actually be good news. Becoming more aware of and altering your own actions may lessen the resistance and negativity your child feels about seeing the other parent.
For more information about resistance to change, check out the Child Centered Divorce Blog today.
If you are considering a divorce, contact Lambert Law. We are dedicated to helping you and your family through your divorce, and providing resources to help you make it through the challenges that come after the divorce is finalized as well.