Your divorce is over, you’re done meeting with your lawyer, but life in Vancouver WA still goes on. Now, the big question you have to answer is how to co-parent.
Hopefully, your situation allows you and your ex-spouse to co-parent. And by co-parenting we mean both parents living near to their child’s school, working together to raise their child, and putting their child first.
As our title states, this situation is more of an art than science. Although we’re going to list some simple strategies, keep in mind that there are no steadfast rules to follow.
Experts will tell you that you have to make and commit to, workable agreements, but they will also tell you to be flexible.
One potential way to view your co-parenting situation is to think of what you want your children to say about your divorce when they’re adults. Then work to make those statements a reality.
Here are some strategies that can lead to successful co-parenting.
- Exchange favors. You may not like doing them, but you’ll eventually need one.
- There’s an app for that. Use an app or online tool to schedule activities. That will help both of you from missing one of your child’s events.
- Pick and choose your battles. Don’t argue over every decision.
- Spend family time together. Even if it’s just big events, your children will appreciate that both mom and dad were there.
- Compliment and be respectful. When your ex-spouse does something positive let them know. When you speak with them consider acting in a professional and tactful manner.
This entry is indebted to the Child Centered Divorce blog.
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